This past Sunday for Week 4 of “Man vs Woman” Donnie spoke to all the single ladies in the house from the Old Testament book of Ruth. You can hear the message for yourself here. Being single is not a curse. As a matter of fact we truly believe that God wants to use your single life experience as a preparation for the next phase of your life. Do you want to have a great single experience? TRULY PUT JESUS FIRST and you won’t find yourself rushing into a man because you are filled with the presence of THE Man.
Being that this week I will be talking to all of single guys (and men in general) I wanted to take a moment to share with all of our female online friends. Maybe this post is for you or maybe you know someone who needs some advice in this area. Here are some thoughts to consider as you take your next step in the area of dating:
- You are a precious and you matter so much to Jesus. It is easy to not view ourselves through God’s eyes and to sell yourself short. You don’t have to settle for “that guy” because you’re afraid there is no one better. Wait for the man that God has chosen for you. When we prayerfully wait on the Lord we give Him the opportunity to work miracles in our lives. We saw this in Ruth’s story this past weekend. She could have found a young man but she was more concerned with the most important things in her life than a relationship. Many young women can learn from Ruth.
- Does your guy have problems but says he will be better after you’re married? Marriage doesn’t fix things – if anything it makes it worse!!! Men don’t get better after marriage. Think about it like this: right now (before the wedding) you are getting the best of him as he is pursuing you. He is in the place of winning your heart before marriage. Think about that a moment: do you feel like he is “winning you” or does it already feel like he is taking you for granted? It doesn’t get better ladies – I promise.
- Does your guy use you? If he is more interested in what he can get from you BEFORE marriage you are in a downward spiral that only leads to pain and unhappiness. Financially, emotionally, relationally… As I said above, it won’t get better.
- Do you find yourself having to make excuses for him? Do your friends see things in him that cause you to make excuses, “oh, he is really great – you just don’t see that side of him.” If THEY don’t see the good side of him what are you actually seeing? People have a tendency to put on a better face in front of others. Is it possible that what you “see” in him is actually you being optimistic about someone because you are afraid there isn’t a better option in your future?
- Do you have to make him go to church? God’s plan for you is a Godly marriage – one that is built around a relationship with Jesus. If the guy you’re dating does not put Jesus first now as he pursues you he is not going to have an about face after you’re married. The man who has to be drug to church by his girl is not concerned with the things of God, period. Remember, the man is called by God to be the spiritual leader of his home – is your boyfriend the spiritual leader of your current relationship?
Seriously, I share this with you because I love you and want the best for all of you! Do not put yourself in a situation that is hard to correct. Single ladies, YOU hold the key to your heart – don’t pass that key until you know that person is worthy to possess it. I’m not trying to pick on the guys… I just know them because I am one (grin). I just want you to remember that, as I said, these things do not improve with marriage. Let’s begin now working to grow in relationships that bring glory to God so that your marriage will bring glory to Jesus.